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Don’t speak

Is there a part of your personality you try to suppress? (Prompt courtesy of: https://thecoffeemonsterzco.com/en-ca/blogs/midnight-blogging/journaling-prompts)

Umm yeah, absolutely and that would be the too friendly, oversharing part.

Why am I too friendly? Because of my Dad. He was always big on being friendly and courteous to others. I remember him often remarking on how friendly others were and how much he appreciated it, whether it was one of our friends or just someone who worked in a store. He’d comment on their big smile, what they said and how nice it is to have friendly people in the world.

Why do I overshare? I have no idea but I do know that I feel the need to justify or explain every decision I make. Okay not every decision, but many of them. And not just to people close to me but even complete strangers.

It took me years to be aware of this and now that I am, I try to hold back in certain circumstances. Not all people are accepting of my friendliness and not everyone wants to hear my stories.

Some pics from yesterday
I rode in the sleigh
Was toasty warm in the ice shack
Of course I caught almost all of the fish

23 responses to “Don’t speak”

  1. as long as they weren t perch or blue gill! eh?

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    1. Only kept the pickeral ☺️

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  2. Whaaa! You have a cabin on the lake too!

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    1. Lol no just a little shack for ice fishing

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  3. Ive ice fished wrong I see now. 🤧

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    1. ☺️😉😂

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  4. Like the fish just swim into your shack wanting to be caught.

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    1. To be caught by me yeah 😉

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  5. i can understand your hesitation with being friendly and oversharing. but one of the hills i am willing to die on is that these qualities – coupled with mindfulness and courtesy – are what creates vibrant and warm communities.

    it’s just a shame that nowadays miserable people have the ability to be more mobile and can easily go around from place to place leaving their negativity and causing once warm and friendly places to become places of low-trust.

    when i was up in the mountains, everyone was nice and welcoming in one town that really prioritized friendliness and connection. but the other towns that didn’t care – you guessed it, people just shut themselves off and no one trusted each other.

    your Dad would have been a really popular guy at the local bar where I was. everyone there looked out for each other and was friendly to passer-byes. heck, i think a few of them even left their trailer doors unlocked all day.

    so this is just my roundabout way of saying to keep your open-ness and sharing. there are so many people in this world that would gravitate to someone like you, especially here in NJ or a place like Los Angeles. you wouldn’t have time to keep up with all the genuine friends that would come into your life .Mike

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    1. Awe thank you so much Mike 🤩

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  6. On a serious note im as naive and trusting as I was as a kid. I only want to think good things about all the people that I meet. Over the past 5 years, I have become extremely weary of all people, and in order for me to get close and reveal myself to them and my life. I take my person seriously and not everyone is welcome to my inner-most feelings and passions.

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    1. Yeah that’s so interesting to hear as i am completely opposite!

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  7. Interesting at what life throws at you to make you change. Still, I fight.

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  8. Not everyone goes ice fishing on Valentine’s Day. Looks fun!

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    1. It was!

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  9. I’m thankful for friendly people like you ! God bless you!

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    1. Why thank you ☺️

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  10. Yeah I totally understand. I use to be outgoing and full of humor. But it seems like a lot of people don’t share my happiness. Even people that I’ve known for many years. I’ve come to realize that they never were my friends to begin with. I no longer have anything to do with them. If you pay attention to people it’s what they don’t say or do that reveals what kind of people they really are. It also reveals how they really feel about you personally. Sadly we live in a world of negativity and hatred. Take care and have a wonderful day. I love your photos, especially the one with the fish. Your cabin looks so warm and cozy. Sending ❤️.

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    1. Thank you so so much for reading and sharing this with me, i really do appreciate it!

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  11. I appreciate warm friendly people. I like how at ease they make others feel. It’s a gift.

    I also appreciate eating fresh caught fish….

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    1. I can send some your way but I’m afraid it won’t be very fresh by the time it gets down there lol

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  12. Yes. I’m extremely goofy and playful. I’m not sure that people can handle the full extent of it though lol

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    1. I feel ya 🙌🏼

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