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Pointy little fingers

CJ Antichow
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prompts for may 2026

What is your own pet peeve about yourself? Thank you Jake, for the prompt!

I hate myself when I let people get to me, let them get under my skin. I react when there’s no need to. Especially people who are of little significance to me.

Certain people, even though their opinions or thoughts shouldn’t matter to me, know how to find that exact spot, some without even trying, and they dig their pointy little fingers into the touchy spot til it hurts and instead of walking away I react.

By react I mean I try to prove my point, my tone changes and I probably come across as defensive.

I hate it when that happens. I need to remind myself that if I wouldn’t seek advice from that person, I also shouldn’t be bothered by their opinions.

Bella-Lena & I in 2001, yes I had to with the pleather pants & the ‘do rag lol

29 responses to “Pointy little fingers”

  1. utahan15 Avatar
    utahan15

    like son tom

    masher

    more than half an hour

    and he s got to go upstairs

    eh?

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  2. jt Avatar
    jt

    I second that emotion! I’ve been trying (without success) to fix that about myself for more years than I care to think about. ☹️

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    1. CJ Antichow Avatar
      CJ Antichow

      I get so mad at myself afterwards lol

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  3. Michael Williams Avatar
    Michael Williams

    I know the feeling and it sucks. I don’t care what anyone says, even if you’re supposed to dismiss it. that feeling is super painful and it takes a lot of effort to just stay calm after you feel like your personal space was violated.

    I hate that there are people who needle other people just to feel a sense of superiority or compensate as a tool to hide their own insecurities.

    my social interactions since hitting my 40’s has been to spot people like that and weed them out of whatever social space I’m interacting in. I don’t like being around people like that but if there’s something I really don’t like about them, it’s when they use that weaponized snark and ruin an otherwise sweet person’s good time! I’m seeing so much of that these days. Mike

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    1. CJ Antichow Avatar
      CJ Antichow

      Yessss all of that Mike!!
      In my case it’s someone who can’t be avoided lol, so i just have to get better at managing my emotions/reactions 😬😬😬

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  4. Not all who wander are lost Avatar
    Not all who wander are lost

    I feel you!!

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    1. CJ Antichow Avatar
      CJ Antichow

      Honestly it’s so comforting to know i’m not alone lol

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  5. Alice Avatar
    Alice

    I get this. Sometimes I manage but people you cannot avoid (or family) are the hardest. Like Michael, I have become selective with who I hang out. Love the picture, by the way.

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    1. CJ Antichow Avatar
      CJ Antichow

      Yesss if i could avoid this person altogether it would be a breeze!
      Thank you ☺️

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  6. Fairweather Walker Avatar
    Fairweather Walker

    Same! You KNOW what the person said shouldn’t bother you, you KNOW their opinion doesn’t matter, and yet you (meaning me) will feel shitty about it for effing ever. If I could have thicker skin, I’d take it.

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    1. CJ Antichow Avatar
      CJ Antichow

      Yes i need to be more “unbothered” 😬

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      1. Fairweather Walker Avatar
        Fairweather Walker

        I’m trying to figure out how to be unbothered by being bothered, because it’s starting to seem as if bs is unavoidable and comes out of the blue too, when least expected. Maybe we have to think of it as the “allowing” of uncomfortable feelings and situations instead of trying so hard to avoid them or shut them down. -Channeling Pema Chodron here

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      2. CJ Antichow Avatar
        CJ Antichow

        Yes this is very true, as much as i’d love to lock myself in my room and come out only on rare occasions, it’s not a very realistic solution ☺️

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  7. Wiwohka Avatar
    Wiwohka

    Accepting yourself, regardless of others opinions is pure freedom… hugs

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    1. CJ Antichow Avatar
      CJ Antichow

      Absolutely!! Thank you ☺️

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  8. Jake Avatar
    Jake

    Ive learned to ask myself if reacting is worth the energy? The conclusion is that the majority if time it’s not worth it, and work on letting it go.

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    1. CJ Antichow Avatar
      CJ Antichow

      Yeah if i could just take a second, take a breath lol and tell myself to chill, that’s the secret sauce but I can’t seem to be able to do that!

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  9. beaufolsom22 Avatar
    beaufolsom22

    you are the last person that anyone should have a reason to be sharp with. feel free to point me in the direction of said people, so i can fedex them a sass package 😉

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    1. CJ Antichow Avatar
      CJ Antichow

      Lol thanks, so her address is….
      ☺️

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    2. Michael B. Fishman Avatar
      Michael B. Fishman

      “sass package” 🙂 I have no idea what’s in one of those (or if I even want to know what’s in one of those), but I love the name. Does it require the recipient to wear gloves and goggles before opening?

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      1. CJ Antichow Avatar
        CJ Antichow

        Ohh yeah maybe it’s a steaming pile of 💩

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  10. Michael B. Fishman Avatar
    Michael B. Fishman

    CJ, I think if you can come up with a way to not let those pointy little fingers in I think you could write a book and make millions of dollars. I didn’t know if Canada’s money was called ‘dollars’ so I looked it up and it is. But I do like the name “loonies”! And I also like the name “touchy spot” because to me it makes that part of us that we might be ashamed and afraid of more human and more tender.

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    1. CJ Antichow Avatar
      CJ Antichow

      Honestly it makes me feel so much better to know that many others deal with annoying people who dig their bony fingers into others’ touchy spots lol, nice to know I’m not alone.
      Lol it makes me laugh that you didn’t know our currency was in dollars, we’re not that far from the US you know 😂
      And yes our one dollar bills were replaced years ago by “loonies” and our two dollar bills by “toonies”.
      Thanks for the daily laugh Michael B Fishman

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      1. Michael B. Fishman Avatar
        Michael B. Fishman

        Loonies and Toonies, I love it! I suppose I’ll have to learn all of this stuff when Canada becomes the 51st state. (bad joke, I know)

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      2. CJ Antichow Avatar
        CJ Antichow

        Not happening!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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  11. Michael B. Fishman Avatar
    Michael B. Fishman

    No. And I don’t think very many people here want that to happen. I’m kind of hoping that day by day the border will creep south inch by inch until one day someone asks, “What happened to Minnesota?” and they find that Minnesota has become part of Canada.

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    1. CJ Antichow Avatar
      CJ Antichow

      You’d be so lucky 😉

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  12. justrojie Avatar
    justrojie

    those pple def know how to push pple’s buttons!

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    1. CJ Antichow Avatar
      CJ Antichow

      This one person in my life is probably not even trying lol, but for some reason i just find them sooo abrasive!

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