January 26th has come and gone but apparently it was National Spouse’s Day. Gag me with a spoon.
But I do love thinking about relationships. Why people stay. Why people pretend to be in a healthy relationship. I’m not really sure why we are so enamoured with finding and being in a relationship. Why do we think THAT’S the key to happiness? Why do people feel that they NEED a partner?
I suppose I’m as guilty of it as anyone else.
When I was newly single after my 13 year marriage ended, the father of Bella-Lena’s bff started stalking me. He sent me flowers anonymously. Dropped off jewelry to my workplace. More flowers. Followed me absolutely everywhere I went.
He was married and the day I had the police serve him with a restraining order, his wife called me. She wanted to know what the story was. Why had I gotten a restraining order? So I told her bits and pieces of the story. The conversation with her made me very uncomfortable.
She asked me why I hadn’t gotten in contact with her and told her what was happening. I really didn’t know what to say. Like sorry Brenda, but it’s an awkward conversation to call you up and say hey, your husband is buying me things and follows me everywhere.
I don’t know that they really stayed together, but he had a massive stroke a couple of years later and she stayed by his side throughout his rehab and in his death.
She still posts “in memoriam” types of lovey dovey things on FB when it’s the anniversary of his death or their anniversary or his birthday.
I don’t understand. But maybe because I’ve never lived it.
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